I’ve just spent almost two weeks “back home” in the UK not thinking about my business at all. I wasn’t on holiday either. I was there to check in on and help out my parents who are experiencing various difficulties. And I confess I’m still feeling distracted and disconnected from my work.
Things like this happen. As a solo entrepreneur I am lucky to have flexibility in, and ownership of, my schedule. The downside is, when I am not working in or on my business, I’m also not making any money….
While I’m grateful that I was able to take time of spend with my parents, I found it virtually impossible to have time for anything else while I was there, except for a few much-needed short visits (a walk, a cup of tea, one lovely lunch) with some of my oldest and dearest friends.
I did, however, have my own secret weapon to help me cope and not be in pure reaction mode – the Alexander Technique, which is the basis of my work. Recently I have written about how useful the skills of the Technique are in terms of managing the stress of running a business. Well, they are also invaluable to me in the handling of a very much more personal stress.
Not succumbing to the “Posture of Overwhelm” (think fight, flight, or freeze) meant I was, for the most part (I am human after all!), able to remain open and relatively calm. I was able to look after myself in the moment, and despite everything going on, was also able to prioritize finding a few minutes of “me-time” each day for Constructive Rest and other self care routines I find helpful, like a daily walk.
I believe this helped ensure I had the energy to meet the emotional and physical demands on me while I was there. Looking after myself helped me be better able to look after Mum and Dad.
Alexander Technique helps you have a resilience in the face of adversity, and I will be forever grateful to my mother for suggesting I try it out many sixteen years ago. Who knew it would take my life in a new direction, leading to having my own business, and eventually also to helping me take care of her.
Some people have called the Alexander Technique “a skill for life.” I totally agree. It helps me function better, no matter what life throws at me.
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